I think one can be queer without "non-normative sexual proclivities." I self-identify as queer although I am "normative," but I have always been attracted to gay men and women as friends. Indeed, almost all my best friends over my long life have been gay. Is there a pc name for a male "fag hag?" And what is it about men and women like us that have us looked upon with derision by some people gay and straight and bi? There is no bar, no community for us. I have sometimes been accused of being terminally closeted, but my wife of nearly 60 years smiles when I say "sticks and stones...."